Saturday, January 31, 2009

We Are Now "Those People"

This is a time when we are now the ones who don't return phone calls and e-mails promptly enough not to seem rude. It's a time when we are very happy to just sit at home with no plans. It's a time when we get strange looks from people when we explain we just can't commit to anything right now. It's a time when other people feel the need to make sure I'm doing alright, instead of the other way around.

All of this has come about because we had a baby, not to mention a baby who spent time in the hospital. But more than that, this came about because we crossed some magical threshold by having our third kid. OK, those of you who have three or more kids who always used to get that look from us, now we get it! It is totally different, and we are understanding that now. It's a bigger transition than going from one to two for some still somewhat mysterious reason. It's one of those things you cannot possibly understand unless you go through it.

And, just for fun, I'm one month into starting a new law practice in the midst of a very tricky economy, which also has contributed to us now being "those people" that we always used to wonder why they were so distant and non-committal. We are that now, and we cannot even feel bad about it. Even if we did feel bad about, there's not a thing in the world we can do about it.

I work and I spend time with the kids. That's all there is time for (actually, there is still not enough time to adequately do those two things).

I'm not complaining. I'm thrilled with both decisions (to have Niles, and to join in on the staring of this firm). I would not make either decision differently if given the opportunity to go back.

I'm just processing, electronically, the reality of life right now. But now I must go . . . . the boy is screaming bloody murder so no more blogging for a while . . . . . . .